Is IM Home right for me?
IM Home is NOT right for every family, but if it's right for your family, it is an awesome tool!1. TIME: You have to have 3 - 5 days a week that you can make 45 - 90 minutes of time totally committed to IM. Yes, your child is doing the work, but they NEED YOU there, even if you are not involved much. Your engagement is powerful. Your praise and simply wanting to walk that journey with them is essential!!!
2. PATIENCE: I expect the students to get frustrated at some point during IM training. I expect parents to play the role of the therapist, coach or adult and remain calm. I make the parents set the goal to be calm and collected at least 95 – 98% of the time, positive, even if the child is not. Once every 10 days you can have one minutes of “You need to get yourself under control’ type louder than typical talk (not anger, but direct, powerful statements of expectation only) …even if 3 out of 10 days the child needs to 'get themselves under control' in your eyes. She/he is not making good choices/is emotional. Can you allow your child to be off the wall without it firing emotions in you? I know this is where IM Home fails. The adult in charge HAS to be able to disconnect their emotions from their child's. Please be honest with yourself about this, if you can't do this, don't invest the money in IM Home but send them in house to me!
3. PERSEVERANCE: You have to have researched IM enough that you believe in the program. During training, the first changes you might see may be just the opposite of what you expect. If you don't believe in the program, you may at that point become discouraged and even discontinue.... missing out on all the possibilities that could lie ahead if you persevered. You need to educate yourself enough to emphatically want what IM has to offer. IM is an intense program that changes lives, but this same intensity is what also makes IM more difficult than some other programs !! I love IM! You will too, if you persevere.